Your Standards Aren’t Too High.. You’re Becoming you again.

You’re not difficult. You’ve just stopped abandoning yourself.

For a long time, you edited your truth → softening your tone, minimizing your needs, laughing off disrespect just to avoid being “too much.” You didn’t want to seem needy, dramatic, or hard to love.

But emotional self-abandonment is not peacekeeping. It’s self-neglecting and people pleasing.

Now, you say what you mean. Once.

You don’t beg for respect. You don’t twist yourself to fit into spaces that never saw your full shape. Let people, old friends, coworkers, and family call you high-maintenance.

Read between the lines. What they’re really saying is: you have standards.

You care for yourself emotionally, energetically, mentally, physically. You don’t wait for someone else to regulate your worth. You’ve learned to self-regulate and self-respect.

The right ones won’t be overwhelmed by that. They’ll feel safe with it.

Because they’ve done the same inner work the hard, necessary work of healing, growing, and unlearning people-pleasing patterns.

This shift isn’t about being cold or unbothered. It’s about being clear with yourself and others. You’re no longer available for one-sided effort, unclear intentions, or relationships that require you to shrink.

It’s not about expecting perfection. It’s about requiring reciprocity.

It’s about recognizing that wholeness doesn’t come from being easy to digest it comes from being real with yourself!

So no, you’re not difficult.

You’re just finally at peace with being fully seen, fully felt, and fully respected.

And that is the beginning of a different kind of life → one built on mutual energy, real connection, and zero crumbs.